Introducing you to our story.. our journey through whatever the world decides to throw at us.. and trusting in God the whole way through. I decided to start this blog for several reasons: to vent [even if no one is reading], to journey [for new adventures] and to share [our story.]
26 July 2009
Genesis 1-4
Genesis 2: (7) the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being. (18) The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." (21) So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. (22) Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. (23) The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." (24) For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Genesis 3: (12) The man said, "The woman you put here with me--she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it." (13) Then the LORD God said to the woman, "What is this you have done?" The woman said, "The serpent deceived me,and I ate." (16) To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." (17) To Adam he said, "Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat of it,' "Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. (19) By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return."
Genesis 4: (1) Adam lay with his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, "With the help of the LORD I have brought forth a man." (7) If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it."
I know that most people will not comment or even read what is in italics but this is my blog and I found great understanding in what is stated.. maybe you will too. Please don't miss out.
Starting Something New
Bryan went to do a service call one day to a woman's house. This woman was celebrating her 98th birthday when Bryan showed up to fix her kitchen sink. She has always requested Bryan to do her plumbing work and knows him well. As a gift and a "good luck" for the fertility treatments, she gave him a bible.
Ever since that day, and I think it's been about a month or so now, I've thought about reading it. I'm not real religious, nor do I claim to be. I don't attend church every Sunday morning or read the bible everyday.
I do, however, believe extremely in the power of prayer. I do have a relationship with God and I do trust in his word. I've never been much of a bible-reader because I've never really understood it so I gave up on that a long time ago.
Today, I started reading the bible again. I signed up for Christianity.com and they have this online bible that you can read, highlight and make notes. It is made so easily to understand and study. I'm posting this for two reasons: (1) to share what I came across with you, in case you're interested; (2) to stick to what I've started, I easily get burnt out on things and this is something that I know will benefit me and my quality of life and I don't want to give up.
I'll be posting as I come across things to share and I encourage you to take advantage of this free offer. I truly believe there is so much comfort, guidance and answers in the word and I can't wait to see for myself.
Izabella (Bella) Harmony Ellerton
Your Uncle Derek holding you - My cousin who has been a best friend to me my whole life. With him, there is always room for laughter and adventure.
You and your Grandpa - My Uncle Acie.. he's a character that you'll love. He's an amazing father and although sometimes shy, a great listener and will make you laugh.
Your Mimi and your Mommy giving you all the attention. - My Aunt Cyndie.. I love her way more than you could imagine. She's the person that I can go to who will not judge and always love you and support you in all that you do.
Your Mommy and You - She's is one of the best people I know. She's a fighter, a survivor and will always have a special place in my heart. I've always tried to be someone for her to look up to but she never seems to surprise me and teach me in things that she does herself. She is definitely a person of strength and you are privileged to have her as your Mommy.
And by the way, we were all raised up on "the flip-flop." Your Mommy knows well of it too. In due time, you will too know what "the flip-flop" is and it is much worse than a paddle or a switch. I pray that the rebellion of our family is somewhat watered down in you but please know that you have been warned. :) I love you gorgeous!
20 July 2009
1st Cycle - 4th Appointment
First and foremost, I must say that my cousin, Lori, is in labor as we speak. If you don't remember in one of my previous posts, I went to Lori's baby shower not long ago and felt a baby, her baby, kick for the first time. Her baby girl, Izabella is on her way.. ready or not! I'm so very excited and happy for her and EJ, Bella's daddy. I'm waiting to hear back from family as we speak (or as I type) on her arrival. :) She's being born at the same hospital that I was born at in Douglas, GA.
Second of all, yesterday I watched Leland and Loretta, who are both 2 1/2 years old, and I didn't really have much time to think about anything. So when I got to work this morning, all I could think about was my Uncle Mike. The only person I've really cried in front of is my brother, Cory and my husband, Bryan. I will not cry in front of my parents. I love my Uncle Mike and all but I kinda feel like so many other people were closer to him, so this is my time to be strong for them and let them just grieve. My Mom called me at work today just crying about him again and I would not let her know that I was crying too. I just let her talk and remember different things that he did that made us laugh or smile. I'm hoping that I can continue to be strong when I get to Georgia tomorrow to be with the rest of my family. The visitation/viewing is tomorrow and the funeral is Wednesday.. not to mention Lori's in the hospital there with Bella on the way.
Lastly, when Bryan and I got to the doctor this morning, I had my ultrasound. Mrs. Terri looked at my right ovary and found about 35 small follicles but none that were big enough to release eggs (ovulation). She looked over at my left ovary and whispered to herself, "come on left ovary, give me some good news." Then I saw the look of disappointment on her face when she counted about 35 small follicles but none big enough for ovulation. At this point, I had so much emotional overload that I just lost it. She and Bryan both came up and gave me a big hug and just calmed me back down and I can't thank God enough for the emotional support. It was such a moment, like in a movie, that we all had tears in our eyes. She promised that she would help us have a baby but I was just completely nonresponsive to the Clomid 50 mg. She put me back on the Ortho Evra patch to "reset" myself until the next cycle starting August 17th. I told her that I knew it probably wouldn't work in the first month but that I just hoped for a miracle anyway.
The hardest part is feeling so torn. I have three best friends, Kristin, Cherie & Lacey. I have two cousins, Lori & Erica. I have two sisters-in-law, Ashley & Ashley. (Yeah I know. :)) I also have Katie, she's like a sister to me.
- Kristin has a girl, Becca, 3 years old.
- Cherie has a boy, Leland, 2 1/2 years old.
- Katie has girl, Loretta, 2 1/2 years old.
- Erica has a girl, Alyssa, 6 months old.
- Lacey has a boy, Brody, 4 months old.
- Ashley (Bryan's sister) has a boy, Michael, 1 1/2 month old.
- Lori has a girl, Bella, due for arrival any minute now.. literally.
- Ashley (Cory's girlfriend) has a baby on its way. He prefers the gender be a secret, but I know. :)
Not that you needed the illustration but I wanted to prove that I'm not exaggerating when I say that everyone around me as children. To all of these babies, I am Aunt Randa and they will always be my babies. I love them all more than words can describe but I am so ready to be at that point where I can be "Mommy!" I feel like I am the only one in the whole world that doesn't have a baby and because I want it so badly, I question what I may have done wrong. I know that God just has a different path for Bryan and I to take, and that's fine too, but I'm just so ready! I think I get so disappointed because we are trying to have a baby in the midst of everyone else having babies and being pregnant. So when we confirmed that this cycle failed, it just hit really really hard.
Anyway, thanks for praying and letting me vent and praying and reading and praying with us. :)
By the way, did you know that loading two 2 1/2 year olds into carseats when one needs to use the potty at last minute takes the better part of 30 minutes? During nap time, I fell asleep!
18 July 2009
Answers to Life
His departure makes me question birth & death but most importantly the quality of our lives. The beginning and ending are nowhere near as important as the life that we make for ourselves. We are the ultimate decision makers on being happy, being helpful, living without boundaries.. or in Uncle Mike's case, a rebel without a cause with all of the above. I smile as I type that. He, by no means, was the man behind the pedestal on Sunday mornings but more of the man at the alter. However, he is a far greater role model to living your life without limits. I look back on the years that I thought he made bad decisions but I think about how he lived.
Ever since I got the news last night, I've done a lot of crying, a lot of hurting but also a lot of thinking. If I have learned anything from Uncle Mike, it's that life is way too short to be scared of everything. Life is way more exciting when we actually live it. I've spent countless days of my life thus far in anxiety and fear. Why not live life while we still have it? Why not experience life for myself instead of just trying to figure it out from the sidelines. If we all just lived more and complained less, I can't even begin to think of how much happier we would all be.
I thank God that just last weekend, he came to visit us here in Panama City. My cousin Erica (Uncle Mike's daughter), TG (Erica's boyfriend) and Alyssa (their baby girl) all stayed here with Bryan and I while Uncle Mike and Ingrid (his wife) stayed next door with my parents for the weekend. We all went out to eat on Friday night, had a cookout on Saturday and they left on Sunday. Just last night, he passed away. I can't thank God enough for us being able to see him one last time.. he seemed to be doing fine.
I thank God for the talk that he had with Bryan. He was letting Bryan know that I chose a good guy to marry. He was joking around, like usual, laughing and having a good time. He even mentioned Bryan and I trying to have 4 kids at one time with this fertility treatment. He has 7 kids himself, with a little boy on the way. He told me Saturday night that when he hit 50 years old, he figured he would just start over and keep having kids. :)
When I pray everyday, I always ask God, "God please keep your hands of safety, protection, happiness, good health and forgiveness over each and every one of our families, our friends and our loved ones.. and all of their family, their friends and their loved ones." Now I have a decision to make. Do I get mad with God for not answering my prayer or do I thank God for each day that He blessed us with Uncle Mike. I choose to thank God for everything.. even the things I don't understand. I choose to thank God for his love and what he teaches us in each experience. I choose to thank God, period.
Rest peacefully Uncle Mike.. don't stir up too much trouble in Heaven. We'll miss you, way more than you know.It makes me wonder; how long does it take an individual to realize that the answer to life is not searching for the answer but simply, living it. Straight from the heart, I'm starting to realize that life is so much more than having children, making money or growing older.
The answer is love. In all that we do, the answer is living life with love.
13 July 2009
Follicle Education
1st Cycle - 3rd Appointment
Mrs. Terri is a straight shooter and she pretty much told me that she didn't think this was going to be our month. I asked her what the percentage rate is or how many months on average does it take for women with PCOS to get pregnant using fertility treatments. Since everyone is different, she couldn't answer my question accurately. She did say that because I'm in a lot better shape than most PCOS women and I'm only 21 years old that my chances were very high once ovulation occurs. She said, "if we can just get you to ovulate, there's no doubt that you'll get pregnant right away.. we just got to get you ovulating."
We're still in good spirits, just hoping for our quarterback. (Refer to the last post for that one.) :) As I've said before, money is tight and fertility is expensive.. but so are babies. Who knows what the future holds but we can at least enjoy the present right? Once again, thanks for reading. Hopefully better updates next time.
09 July 2009
1st Cycle - 2nd Appointment
01 July 2009
1st Cycle - 1st Appointment
All testing thus far has had amazing results. My ultrasound showed that my larger cysts are no longer there. There are a few follicles but nothing to be too terribly concerned about. I also had some blood work done which I think is just procedure to check everything out.. no word on that yet.
I love my husband! To see the excitement in his face is a blessing within itself. It seems like it takes nothing to get me excited or entertained while he is more the reserved and realistic one. Today the roles were definitely switched. Where as I was a little nervous and not wanting to get my hopes up, he was like the 5 year old about to walk in to the candy store. He was laughing and talking to the nurse and just asking Mrs. Terri all these questions.
During my ultrasound, she was showing him all of my "parts" on the screen and he was just so interested. When Mrs. Terri left the room, he gave me a kiss and made a statement (that I won't repeat) basically reassuring his excitement. It meant so much to me.
I got side-tracked and forgot to ask some of the questions but she basically told me that I need to act as normal as possible. She warned Bryan that the Clomid may make me a little irritable and I may get hot flashes from time to time. I can do anything physically that I've always done. She reassured me that the miscarriage from the honeymoon was not because I killed the baby but more of a chromosomal defect with the baby.. which is the cause of most miscarriages.
Mrs. Terri reminded us to be realistic in knowing that this may not work the first month but also gave us a lot of hope and words of wisdom to just have fun with the whole experience.
She said that some women with PCOS do not react at all to Clomid and some produce way too many follicles. Our goal is to have just one healthy baby to have as normal of a pregnancy as possible. If I produce too many follicles or I have no reaction to the Clomid then they will stop the cycle and change the treatment. They will never go 3 months on the same cycle that's not working.. whether it be to increase the dosage or change the method of ovulation and pregnancy.
NOTE: The chance for twins on Clomid is 10% and the chance for triplets is less than 1%. Somewhere between 40% and 80% of patients taking Clomid will have success in creating ovulation. However, this does not guarantee a successful conception.
As for more to come, I will start taking the Clomid in 2 days on the 3rd. My other appointments will basically be like today (an ultrasound and bloodwork) and possibly an FSH injection to help.
Again, thank you for all of your prayers and words of encouragement. It warms my heart everytime I get an email or a phone call and people say, "we're keeping our fingers crossed for ya" or "you're in our prayers" or something as simple as "good luck." It means so much to us.